20 things being 20 taught me.

Erm so I'm 21 tomorrow, WHAT EVEN IS THAT?! How has this happened?! 

The last year has probably been the weirdest of my life. Impressive, but weird. Impressive in its ability to be absolutely fantastic but also to have included some of what were probable the worst days of my life. I read this list back and it all seemed really negative, but I guess that's how you learn things - by things going wrong, or at least not to plan. It doesn't have a negative spin on it for me, because these are good things; only because I know them now. 

  1. People who are in their 20s can still act like they're 13, and that is not okay, but you kind of just have to get on with it. 
  2. Insecurity is a thing. And unfortunately, genuine insecurity looks very similar to being a 13 year old drama queen.
  3. Giving yourself a break is really flipping important.
  4. Your don't know what you've got until it's gone. Not even permanently gone. But you don't appreciate friendships or family relationships properly until you're in another city and haven't got them in front of you any more.
  5. Life doesn't make sense. Seeing your favourite people go through really really difficult things doesn't make sense. And it has to not make sense and be ok because if we understood everything well, that would be weird.
  6. Two word responses to your essay texts are actually ok. I mean, it's good to be able to discern when someone actually does not give a monkeys, but most of the time that's not the reason, most of the time, people just aren't as prolific as you. And that's no bad thing.
  7. Doctors are not always right. 
  8. Lidl. Lidl is fantastic. 
  9. Just because something which goes on your face is more expensive, doesn't actually mean it's better. 
  10. Wearing glasses when you’re supposed to wear glasses is important and it stops those horrible headaches which are incurable by any method other than sleep. 
  11. Honesty and vulnerability in blogging and writing in general, is something which I will value forever. 
  12. Nobody is you, and that is your power.
  13. Text messages are the best and the worst thing ever.
  14. Enjoying what you do is more important than doing what people expect you to do.
  15. The Breakfast Club is an important part of life.
  16. Surrounding yourself with good people is really, really important. 
  17. Writing cannot be done well if one does not read.
  18. Friendship isn’t necessarily about talking to people every day. It’s about being able to pick up from where you left off. It’s about being able to be brutally honest, and being able to pick up the phone because you’re either laughing or crying so hard that you need to tell someone. 
  19. Unconditional friendship is absolutely a thing. 
  20. When everything feels like it’s falling apart, it probably isn’t.